Fluent in Spanish, some proficiency in Portuguese and Italian. Represent Clients (English, Spanish & Native-Indigenous speakers) in criminal cases across all courts in Arizona.Duties include office management of several full-time staffers and supervising independent contractors, including law clerks, paralegals, investigators, and experts pursuant to CJA funding requests. Have run a successful law practice for the last 25 years. ![]() Then he paused, wisely, and said, “I picked the white marbles. I’m not exaggerating with the second really. When I asked how his day was, he said that it was really, really good. Later that same day I picked my son up from school. It’s so simple, in fact, that a twelve-year old can do it. So if you could visualize reaching into the bag of marbles inside your brain and hand picking which thoughts to focus on for the day, what would you choose? Now you might argue that it isn’t as simple as I’m making it out to be. ![]() This is the real magic in magical thinking. Yet when you change your thoughts, it appears the circumstance has also changed. You will still have to head off to the job you might not love and could even hate. My son still has to head off to a school he doesn’t like wearing a tie he loves even less. Only the way you choose to think about the circumstances changes. Just so we are clear, the circumstances don’t change. This is how it is done, one marble at a time. You’ve heard people wax on philosophically that you create your reality. Choose a white marble and you feel joy, hope, happiness, optimism, satisfaction, encouragement, peace, and the granddaddy of them all, love. The white marbles are the positive thoughts and perceptions. These fill us with emotions like anxiety, hate, anger, hopelessness, stress, overwhelm, discouragement, desperation, sadness, and the granddaddy of them all, fear. The black marbles are the negative thoughts and perceptions. In my metaphor, your mind is like a bag full of marbles: black ones and white ones. This might sound like magical thinking but think again. I’m talking about regaining your sanity by gaining control over what you are thinking and consciously choosing your thoughts again. What I’m suggesting is quite the contrary. I know that metaphorically losing your marbles means to go insane. ![]() That quizzical look on your face right now, he had that look too. After giving him the space to express his feelings–which were all very negative–I told him he needed to lose his marbles. His eyes looked up at me, tears were forming, and I knew I was going to need a bigger pom-pom. “Head up, buddy,” I sang in that way moms do when they feel the need to cheer their children up and on. If that wasn’t quite enough, add a dress shirt, tie and a Hail Mary at the end of every class period. To make matters worse, he was the new kid in middle school at a small Catholic school, where all the other kids have been together since kindergarten. We all remember what it is to be the new kid at school? Being that it was middle school made it even more awkward, nerve wracking and unsettling. ![]() A few days earlier he had started a new school. He wasn’t eating because he said his stomach ached. My twelve-year old son was sitting at breakfast one morning, head and spirits down.
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